Wisdom-to-share

My husband loves to send me an article; he wants to make sure that at least I know something. On that day I got email from him and there was only one short sentence and the link. He wrote " ... Interesting, we don't really practice the Chinese Mothers’ style then …” I was curious about the article and I started to read the article. The article is about the Chinese mom parenting style compare to the western mom. According to the article, Chinese mom will not allow their kids to sleep over or party, joining the play at school, no computer game. The kids have to learn music, should be “A” student. It is probably right in general. I think I can describe the Chinese kids should be called as triple E, Excellent, Extra ordinary and maybe end up as Engineering. Considered I am a Chinese decent, and the statement from my husband that we are not doing as a Chinese mom. I replied his email. "Yes ... I am not following a Chinese mom’s style or western mom’s style, as I like Frank...

Every man builds his world in his own image. He has the power to choose, but no power to escape the necessity of choice. Ayn Rand One dinner time, I listened to my husband story. He told me about our friend who has an economic problem. His friend thought he has no ability to work hard because of many reasons; such as it was hard for him to make decision in his life. The problem is we know him very well and we were sad to see that he struggled in his life. We talked about any possibilities to help him but I couldn’t find one. In my opinion we can not help people whom he or she never realizes that he or she has an ability to work in his or her life. We all know that our friend is a very talented person. He didn’t trust himself that he has those wonderful talents to make a living. We involved into a long discussion. I spontaneously said,” He doesn’t want to take his responsibility in his life. I enjoy working everyday” My husband didn’t agree with me, he said,” Only for you enjoy wor...

The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them. Ernest Hemingway One day, my husband and I went to meet his good friend. They were college friends when they studied abroad. We talked about random things until we ended up talking about our children’s education. We have children in the same age. We were ready to send our first daughter to go abroad for her education during that time. Our friend said that he worried to send his children to study abroad because of the culture differences and other life style issues. I am a simple person. In my opinion if we as parents already teach our children the value of our culture, the value of our family, the rest of that we just need to trust the children. My husband asked me many times about how much I trust my children to go abroad and to live by themselves. I said I have done my part and the rest of the part will be in the children’s hand. It depends on their decision and their choice of life. We can not do anything or w...

Life is a gift, and it offers us the privilege, opportunity, and responsibility to give something back by becoming more. Tony Robbins I used to keep in touch with my old friends, one day I was online on Yahoo messenger and I found one of my friends also online. I started to type “Hi” and then we had a long chatting line after that. Even we live in the same city Jakarta; we haven’t met for such a long time. My friend told me that she was busy because that was a final exam at her children’s school. She was busy to help her children to memorize and to study all subjects from Math, Science and Social studies. She found out that I never helped my children to memorize before the exam. The big question was how I did that. The answer that I have in my life, I never taught my children or helped them to study. I just taught them “Life is responsibility and consequence” Their responsibilities in life, they need to do their best in everything, bring the best out of themselves, they have to us...

It was Tuesday morning, when I woke up and my brain was filled with my Develop your leadership seminar which I would conduct on that day. I saw my inbox, there was an email from someone whom I didn’t recognize the name. I saw the title of the email I even couldn’t guess who the sender was. I read the email and it was written in Malay language. I couldn’t understand clearly the meaning but I really could guest that the person said “I forgot how I suddenly visit your blogs. Continue following the articles one by one, I found the articles have good meaning. Even though there were only short stories but the moral of the story could be quoted. In this opportunity I greeted you and thank you for your writings. …. (He gave comments for some of my articles … I knew that he read all my articles) Wishing LK will always be in a good health and continuously was given the strength to write- my sincerely prayer … “The closing is Kuantan – Malaysia. I was surprised to read that email. Someone whom...

Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get, it's what you are expected to give -- which is everything. -Anon. Two years ago, I met Mr. Peter Chia. The first time I talked with him, I was amazed with his eagerness to study and his great spirit to do good things for others. It built the great connection between us. The more I know Mr. Peter Chia I can see his vision and mission clearly in my mind. He built 10 schools for poor people in Indonesia. He is not Indonesian, but he cares… he spreads his love among Indonesian people. He shared with me, his dream to see people can say three powerful words “I love you” He believes that three words have a power to change people’s attitude to be more positive. I believe the same thing. By saying “I love you” we help the person to see that “He/ she deserves to be loved, he/ she is special, and he / she has a great thing to be proud of” Why we need to say “I love you” because people need acceptance, Love is acceptance … when there...

It was Sunday morning; we jumped into the car early in the morning. Rushing to Jakarta International School in South Jakarta, my husband started to worry that we would be late for the 5 K Race. I was worried as well. I asked my daughter many times, “Are you okay? Are you ready for the race? I think you didn’t have enough sleep last night. Please don’t force yourself to win the race”. Devina my lovely daughter replied, “Don’t worry mom. I am fine” As parents my husband and I tried our best to be her coach on that day. Actually we just showed our concern to her health and our worries. We made to come on time at Jakarta International School and Devina was ready at the start line. My husband with his camera was always ready to take any pictures of Devina. I was there in the start line to give support for Devina. I reminded her again not to force herself. And then the race started, many people in difference range of ages started to run. I couldn’t see Devina anymore. I started to wait ne...