Wisdom-to-share

People told me to celebrate my 25 th wedding anniversary as a big celebration. I wonder what actually we need to celebrate?   This is actually the accumulation of years that a couple has been through together. This is not to celebrate the love, the sweetness or the happiest moments in that marriage life. I think it is more into celebration of the pain, the fights, the bitterness and ups and downs in life during those years. We celebrate that we could bear together “ For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer ” that is one of the commitment sentence in the wedding vow Yes … that is all about marriage … Funny that in the vow they only mention “ for better, not for the best … for worse, not for the worse, for richer, not the richest, … for poorer, not for the poorest ” All make sense for me, because it is easier to promise one level higher condition than the reality itself. It is already hard for us to accept or to adjust when everything not as good as our

One day I entered a complex of luxurious houses. I was amazed with all the beautiful houses there. But I wondered there were so quiet, there were no sign of people living inside or people did activities there. Probably they were inside and there is such a big house to hide them. This is my comment at that time, “ These beautiful and big houses are like the cemetery, so empty and quiet “ Some thoughts came into my minds: there are so many people work so hard to have a beautiful house to tell the world their achievement in their life, but for that reason they work late at the office and then they only enjoy a few hours in their beautiful house. That is probably a great award for some people or that is something worthy to have in life.   I saw similar thing in this world, the big house is like the cemetery, we might build to enjoy but we are not really enjoy it. I come across Dalai Lama ’ s quote: “Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacri