Wisdom-to-share

One day, in a coffee shop  … I was about to pay my coffee. A waiter who often met me there asked me this questions,  “ Madam, do you like to do exercise? ” I asked him back,  “ Yes. Why do you ask me that question? ” He said,  “ You look young and pretty ” I said confidently,  “ I know I am pretty, even when no body says it … I will tell myself that I am pretty ” Someone behind me said,  “ Wow  … you are so confidence. People might not think you are pretty ” I said,  “ Can you really read what people thinks about you? If you cannot recognize your own mind, how come you are so sure about what they think about you? If that minds cannot help you to build your confidence, forget it. Yes we need to be confidence, and don ’ t let anyone turn you down. A confidence is hard to build and it might take years to build it. Start from today you have to tell yourself that you are beautiful ” People are worry about others ’ opinion, they never live their 100 percent capacity, and they ke

Tuesday December 18, 2018 was a contest day in my regular club meeting. It was table topics contest, and the question was  “ If not now then when ” I wanted to answer the question but I was not a contestant. However if I have a chance to answer that question, I would say: If I were single and I had so much money and one of my dreams is to travel around the world. I would definitely take the chance to go around the world. I would not think twice because if not now then when. However if I were poor, I would start to save the money so one day I could travel around the world and I would tell myself If not now then when  … If right now, right here  … there are some people look unhappy and if we could help to make them smile again. I would ask you all If not now then when. Help people right away when they really need us.  If you haven ’ t called your parents, you should consider doing it now. If not now then when you will do it. Don ’ t wait the precious time to tell your pa

“If you put a spoonful of salt in a cup of water it tastes very salty. If you put a spoonful of salt in a lake of fresh water the taste is still pure and clear. Peace comes when our hearts are open like the sky, vast as the ocean.”  ―  Jack Kornfield ,  The Art of Forgiveness, Lovingkindness, and Peace It was a such regular day for me to enjoy a cup of coffee and to talk about random thing. The topic was “we live sorrounding with bad people” Yes that is true, but I think bad people is everywhere. I heard people said, “I don’t want to live in this country because this country is so bad and there are so many bad people here” or I heard as well, “There is no hope to live in this country”  I believe it could bother our mind, by asking, “Are we living in the right place?” Or we rush to find the world map and then to try find the right place to live? How about people who lives in the war zone? Do they think the same thing like us?  I probably have different opinion. “Good or bad

She said,”Mom, I don’t want to compete again” I said,”Please do it for fun” And she won the second place for International speech contest and table topics contest in the Club. She had to compete in the Area level  She came to me and said,”Mom, may I just do one contest category? And let someone replace me for table topics contest” I said, “Sure” I came home late a day before the contest and she came to me and asked, “Mom please read my speech drafts” I read and said,”I think I love your idea about International women’s day” Without complaining, she wrote her speech ... about Women And once again she said, “I compete not to win the contest but to share the message to respect women because what women can do in this world” I said,”Yes....... just do it for fun” Yesterday ... She won the second place for International speech contest in the area.  Parenting is not to force our children to do something that they don’t like ... but to encourage them to use their talents to explore the

Acceptance and tolerance and forgiveness, those are life-altering lessons. Jessica Lange On that evening my husband suddenly asked me,” Lina, do you have any article about dealing with difficult people?” I just realized I never wrote about that. It was easy to write about good experiences in life. In my life I have lots of experiences dealing with people and most of the times I just wrote about the good one. I curiously asked my husband, “Why do you ask me about that? We have the book somewhere in our book shelf about Dealing with difficult person” He looked at me and smiled, “I think you have one article about it and I want to share to my friend” The only answer came out from my mind was,” If you can not deal with difficult person, deal with yourself first. Just accept and change the way we deal with that person. It is hard and takes time to apply in your life, but it works” It was so simple but also too hard to apply in life. Sharing this story it is not easy for me.