Wisdom-to-share

“ To care for those who once cared for us is one of the highest honors. ” ― Tia Walker, The Inspired Caregiver: Finding Joy While Caring for Those You Love Singapore June 22, 2017 It was a very hot day and I pushed my mom ’ s wheelchair to enter the Gardens by the bay as part of our short trip to Singapore. My mom can still walk properly but she couldn ’ t walk too far, so to make the trip enjoyable for her I always brought the wheelchair. The breeze touched us when we entered the flower dome. There were many people there and they took pictures of the flowers. I saw an Indian couple in front of me, they are probably around my age or slightly older than me. The wife suddenly came to me, “ May I take a picture with your mother? ” I was surprised but I let her do it. Aha … my mother might be famous after that picture uploaded in the social media with the right capture. The husband showed me the picture he took with his cellphone. And they said, “ Thank you ” So I...

There are many reasons why I didn ’ t write any notes or story for such a long time. I always make a promise to write again for all my friends who love to read my blogs. It is not hard to write but it is hard to write from the heart. Every time I want to write something … it seems I need to dig deep before I can say it right. Anyway … a promise is a promise … I try to write now.   Here is the story … At the end of last year, I got email from my friend. It was just a common email that we used to send at the end of the year, just to make sure we keep in touch. But this time … there was something different in that email. My friend asked me to help her friend to teach Communication skills. She believed I would do it as part of doing good deeds. She has a great trust in my skills and my ability. Lien is my friend who lives in New York now and I met her many years ago when she stayed in Indonesia. We met in the club where we both were active members. I know her from her...

“ Non est ad astra mollis e terris via" - "There is no easy way from the earth to the stars ” ― Seneca In this world, people can underestimate or overestimate our ability. I probably prefer when people underestimate my ability. It was happened, when my friend wanted to hire me to teach a group of people. They asked my friend, “ Why do you choose Lina? She is not famous and we don ’ t know her ability. We can hire the famous motivator or famous speaker ” I said to my friend, “ It is okay if they don ’ t want me to be their trainer or teacher. I am fine with that ” My friend told me, “ I told them to give you a chance and see what you can do ” A month before that class, I told my husband, “ I am not famous, but I will do my best to share my knowledge ” With smiling face my husband only said, “ You can do it and it is good when they underestimate you … you will be greater than they think ” The class was very well, I got a good feedback from the par...

People told me to celebrate my 25 th wedding anniversary as a big celebration. I wonder what actually we need to celebrate?   This is actually the accumulation of years that a couple has been through together. This is not to celebrate the love, the sweetness or the happiest moments in that marriage life. I think it is more into celebration of the pain, the fights, the bitterness and ups and downs in life during those years. We celebrate that we could bear together “ For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer ” that is one of the commitment sentence in the wedding vow Yes … that is all about marriage … Funny that in the vow they only mention “ for better, not for the best … for worse, not for the worse, for richer, not the richest, … for poorer, not for the poorest ” All make sense for me, because it is easier to promise one level higher condition than the reality itself. It is already hard for us to accept or to adjust when everything not as good as...