Wisdom-to-share

She said,”Mom, I don’t want to compete again” I said,”Please do it for fun” And she won the second place for International speech contest and table topics contest in the Club. She had to compete in the Area level  She came to me and said,”Mom, may I just do one contest category? And let someone replace me for table topics contest” I said, “Sure” I came home late a day before the contest and she came to me and asked, “Mom please read my speech drafts” I read and said,”I think I love your idea about International women’s day” Without complaining, she wrote her speech ... about Women And once again she said, “I compete not to win the contest but to share the message to respect women because what women can do in this world” I said,”Yes....... just do it for fun” Yesterday ... She won the second place for International speech contest in the area.  Parenting is not to force our children to do something that they don’t like ... but to encourage them to use their talents to exp...

Acceptance and tolerance and forgiveness, those are life-altering lessons. Jessica Lange On that evening my husband suddenly asked me,” Lina, do you have any article about dealing with difficult people?” I just realized I never wrote about that. It was easy to write about good experiences in life. In my life I have lots of experiences dealing with people and most of the times I just wrote about the good one. I curiously asked my husband, “Why do you ask me about that? We have the book somewhere in our book shelf about Dealing with difficult person” He looked at me and smiled, “I think you have one article about it and I want to share to my friend” The only answer came out from my mind was,” If you can not deal with difficult person, deal with yourself first. Just accept and change the way we deal with that person. It is hard and takes time to apply in your life, but it works” It was so simple but also too hard to apply in life. Sharing this story it is not easy for me. ...

“Music is the literature of the heart; it commences where speech ends.”  ―  Alphonse de Lamartine We passed twenty-six years of marriage on June 2017. We didn ’ t celebrate with anything special. It is actually good for people who have romantic side in their life to celebrate their anniversary with flowers, candle light dinner and diamond as the gift. In my life I didn ’ t need those thing, on that day I usually do the reflection of my journey with my husband. I realized sometimes both of us were busy with our duties, we didn ’ t speak much about our daily activities. We seemed like two people listen to the same song with different harmony. There was nothing wrong about it. We understood each other; we believed we were in the same track to spend our life together, but each of us needed to be alone sometimes. As Kahlil Gibran said, Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. “Let there be space...

It was so common in my class that my students would ask me random questions especially about Indonesian culture. “ Lina, I don ’ t understand your people ” “ Why? ” “ Look, they like to sitting and talking for hours. ” “ O … we call it ‘ nongkrong ’ … . ” “ What the meaning of nongkrong? ” “ Sitting, talking and actually doing nothing ” “ O my goodness. And look at them. They are so happy and do you know they probably don ’ t make enough money. Do you think they have a life insurance or a lot of saving in their bank account? But my maid at home she doesn ’ t have a bank account. The money I gave to her … easily gone ” My other student always asked me “ When some of your people really want to live in United States, why do you still like to live in this country? Your country has no future because of the corruption and they hate each other because of religion or ethnic ” It was so hard for me to explain about those issues. I found the way to explain to th...

Saturday, July 8, 2017 I ran to the mall to have lunch together with my daughter. She had been dealing with a difficult person and situation for a couple days before. I tried to be with her all the time when she had a problem. Lunchtime was one of the times we could discuss about any problem and we tried to find the solution. After lunch, we needed to go to other place. I said, “I need to go to the toilet” My daughter, “Sure mom, I will wait here” After I am done, I saw a two years kid standing near the door.   And a nanny who talked to her, “You need to walk, I don’t want to carry you” The kid was about to cry. I talked with her, “Why you don’t want to walk?” She looked at me and she said, “I don’t want to walk” I said to her, “You need to use your feet to walk so one day you can use to run … and you can run faster. Do you want to walk with me?” She grabbed my hand and she walked with me. I didn’t know her name or anything about her. We walked together from ...